Papa


जितना अच्छा मुस्कुराते हैं,
उससे भी बेहतर..
दर्द छुपाते हैं पापा।
कहते जो कम हैं,
पर कर जाते हैं ज्यादा।
मुश्किल हो कैसी भी,
हल कर जाते हैं पापा।
बड़ी कर आँखे डराते हैं पापा।
पर कुछ हो जो बच्चों को…
तो सहम जाते हैं पापा।
©Dr.Kavita

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  1. I wanted to leave a comment on your poem ‘The female Mind’ but unfortunately there was no comment box… hence I am leaving it here:
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    I am stymied by this poem… it is not what I was expecting… at least… as it appears to me… it seems to be written from the point of view of a man… (unless the ‘he’ & the ‘his’ referred to is God… then a whole new dichotomy as presented itself)… I also considered a cultural clash… please put my mind at ease… how wrong am I?

    This is how the poem comes across to me:
    the words and symbols in brackets are my own to create fluency, and understanding…
    **
    Because the heart of a woman is said to be soft… and the mind of men is fickle… her prayer should be to – Surrender, Surrender every moment… of soil(?), (her life?), image, thought, appearance, make-up, dress behavior… she must ask herself… do you have anything of your own? Because while growing up, casting down (must be) your choice… do not (have) your own mind… don’t hold everyone’s respect (for you) down… such is his application (what he is asking if you)… so the ban – (this) custom is not unreasonable… it is an initiative for the betterment of women… (your shame?)… (you must) look down (and) smile (while) listening to things… and laughing and accepting… for it’s all decency… the ban – the custom is not unreasonable… it is an initiative for the betterment of women… (so) tell me what you got in your eyes (what do you see that you want so badly?)…. (do you) hear yourself (?) do (you want to do) something… (I understand) so he is disturbing (your) decency…(?)
    🇯🇲🏖️

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    1. In this paragraph, poem is telling about life of women, how each and everything belongs to her is influenced by others .
      मिट्टी , मूरत ,सोच ,सूरत ,
      प्रथना- अर्पण, हर क्षण समर्पण,
      साज- श्रृंगार, पहनावे का व्यवहार ।
      क्या कुछ तेरा अपना है ?
      The soil which made you is belong to others,
      you are like a terracotta statue which is molded by others,
      Your thinking is influenced by others , your face,makeup ,dress, behavior is also not only yours.. it is maintained by you to make others (mainly men) happy.
      Your prayer, sacrifice is also for others(mainly for family). Then what is truly yours?

      In this paragraph ,poem is trying to tell about the situation of women in our patriarchal society.
      पलना, बढ़ना, ढलना तेरा, सब तो उनकी मर्जी है।
      मन का अपने करो नहीं,
      इज्जत सबकी नीचे धरो नहीं,
      ऐसी उनकी अर्जी है।
      Your(her)upbringing(पलना),growth (बढ़ना),getting molded(ढलना), everything is their(men’s)wish. It’s their( here father or husband)request that you should not solely think about your wish and should not ’t do anything without considering men’s( here father or husband)respect.

      In this paragraph poem is telling that how society justified the restrictions over women.
      कहते हैं वो , स्त्री मन है , कोमल है
      और पुरुषों का मन चंचल है।
      सो पाबंदी- दस्तूर बेवजह नहीं,
      स्त्रीयों की हीं बेहतरी की पहल है
      It says — (कहते हैं वो) they(society mainly patriarchal society) say ( स्त्री मन है , कोमल है)that female and her mind is soft and delicate *और पुरुषों का मन चंचल है)and men and their mind is playful and fickle (सो पाबंदी- दस्तूर बेवजह नहीं,) therefore restriction present over female is reasonable(for example in most of the society people tell that women should be home early and this is for their safety because you can’t stop bad guy or man so you should stop yourself. (स्त्रीयों की हीं बेहतरी की पहल है) all these restrictions are for female benefits.

      In this paragraph poet is telling that how society defines your decency.
      लज्जाना , नज़र झुकाना
      बातें सुनना मुस्कुरा कर,
      और हंस कर स्वीकार कर जाना,
      सब शालीनता हीं तो है ।
      If you(women) blush, avoid looking directly at them(men)in a bold or open way, listen their orders with keeping smile on your face and accept the same with a nice laugh, all these denote decency of a girl(according to men or society).

      This paragraph is mentioning revolutionary nature of women in our society and unacceptance of the same .
      जो आंखे मिला कुछ कह जाओ,
      अपनी सुना कुछ कर जाओ ,
      तो वो उसी शालीनता में खलल है।
      If you (woman) talk by looking boldly in their eyes( in other word not listening them ), tell them your plan boldly and do as you want without thinking much about them or without caring whether they get agree with you or not .
      All these are breach of your decency only .( according to them or men)

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  2. अपने बालकों को हृदय से प्रेम करने वाला एक संवेदनशील पिता ही इस कविता के भाव को भलीभांति अनुभव कर सकता है।

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